ADHD diagnosed? Where do parents like me find help?
As a mother of a child who has been “labelled” as having ADHD, I am surprised by the amount of downright contradictory information on this illness. One specialist told me that diet would have no impact on my son, another said to change his diet completely whilst another suggested I just accept facts and put him on Ritalin.
The more I read on Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, the more confused I become! I am quite intelligent – although one of my son’s specialists did tell me that my son had inherited ADHD from me. He was able to “diagnose” me after speaking to me for ten minutes. I read a lot and perhaps I do have problems focusing some of the time but then who doesn’t? I am certainly not going to start taking drugs to “cure” this and if I am not prepared to be drugged, then why would I allow my four year old son to be.
Please don’t misunderstand me – I believe that some, but only a few, children and adults can benefit from taking medications such as Ritalin, Metadate etc. I believe that if parents have investigated this illness and their child has been properly assessed and diagnosed i.e. other conditions which can mimic the symptoms of ADHD are investigated and discounted, then perhaps their child will benefit from these drugs. However, as a parent of a child diagnosed with ADHD, I would be concerned that whilst the short term studies have shown that these medicines are possibly safe – what are the long term studies going to show?
So what help is available for parents whose child has been “diagnosed” as having ADHD by their child’s school or the other mothers at the school gates? Well, I would suggest that we all apply some good old fashioned sense to this situation. Please remember that I am not being judgemental – I am coming from the same position – I was devastated, at first, when my son was “diagnosed” with ADHD. But now I am more educated on the subject although I would never consider myself an expert. But with the experts constantly contradicting each other – I am rather glad I am not one.
All kids need their parents time – may sound obvious but how many of us are rushing around so fast in this crazy world that we only ever stop to punish our kids – i.e. we only speak to them to say stop doing that, why cant you go and play etc. Countless studies have shown that children can have all the toys and gadgets in the world but they are happier if their parents play games with them.
In the old days, kids could run free outside – parents were happy to let their children run off adventuring with their friends. Now, children don’t have that benefit. Children, in particular boys, need to burn off their excess energy. It is a fact of life, that unlike our parents who grew up in an era of food rationing and shortages, children today are in the main very well nourished. So what do you get when you combine well nourished children with no freedom to run off the energy that nourishment provides? Could they perhaps show signs of aggression, hyperactivity, lack the ability to concentrate – the list of symptoms are endless. Funnily enough these symptoms can be used to diagnose ADHD.
Children need a lot of time, consistent discipline and healthy diets. But they also need to “run” off their energy. They need the freedom to be children, to climb trees and run around – children need to play. Most children go through phases but I think parents of boys in particular would recognise that a lot of boys experience a rush of testosterone between the ages of 5 and 8. During this period, they can become unruly and difficult to manage – so they need an out for this hormone. In the old days, they would have run riot around the streets or farms and burnt off the excess. Today, they are expected to sit still and concentrate – either at school or at home. So many schools do not have the staff or sport facilities required – so many homes do not have big gardens and so many areas do not have adequate children’s facilities such as playgrounds and free well maintained adventure parks. Generally speaking, girls can sit still and concentrate for longer periods than boys – but given a chance to burn off some energy these same boys appear to be able to concentrate better on their lessons and are easier to manage.
So is it any surprise that more boys are diagnosed with ADHD than girls or that the number of diagnosed ADHD cases is rising? Surely it makes sense to put some funds into developing free safe well maintained child facilities and playgrounds, reducing the number of children in the classes at school and ensuring that all schools have the proper facilities i.e. a wide range of sports and leisure activities. Common sense dictates that we, as a society, should be pushing for these changes rather than spending millions and millions on drugs to dope up our kids!
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